L’amour est enfant de bohème,
il n’a jamais connu de loi :
Si tu ne m’aimes pas, je t’aime ;
si je t’aime, prends garde à toi !
It’s Valentine’s day, my friends!
Millions of chocolate boxes will bring early diabetes, tons of roses will be sold with any kind of heart-shaped object while we all try to appear more and more in love, at least for one day.
Yes, you can tell I am not a fan of this type of festivities 😀
But today, just for today – I will explode in an overdose of romanticism with my own love story. Ladies and gentlemen, I give you my guest star of the shooting – Lady Violante’s husband.
I met my Mr Big in 2001 in Belgrade, where I was studying at the local university. I fell quickly for the charming diplomat with gentleman’s manners, he fell for my hazel eyes, and in less than six months we moved back to Italy and his home town Milan.
What does it take to understand that the person you have in front of you is the one? What are my own requirements in love?
Well, to begin with, I want a gentleman. Manners are of extreme importance, the bon-ton is a must and so is the sense of time and place appropriateness. So when I got asked on the first date – an evening in the opera – I knew I’ve met my match.
Then, education. Between me and my husband, we currently own over 12.000 books and at this pace, I do not know what will bury us before, my shoes or the library! In this day and age, a good education is a must, there is no way around it.
Next on the list, freedom. I am a wild bird myself, as Carmen would say, and I am not to be put in a cage, not even a golden one. So a man who knows how to let me do my thing without feeling threatened by my personality gains my respect: jealousy is nice, but when it becomes something more than passion – which is always good – it’s a huge no-no from me.
Ah, yes, passion. It takes a king to understand the value of a queen, it’s undeniable. Therefore, I want to feel wanted, chased, loved, cherished, admired, every single day of the year, not only on Valentine’s! A man without courage to go and get the woman he wants has no appeal to me: I think all women want to be the prey, even if they chose carefully their own huntsman. Men out there, heard that? We ladies have a lot of qualities, but guessing your minds isn’t one of them. Want a girl? Go and get her!
This photo has been taken on the Ponte delle Sirenette, “The Sirens’ bridge”, Milan’s own answer to any other romantic place in the major European cities. It is one of my favorite places in Milan, unfortunately unknown to many, but a place with history, poetically beautiful and surrounded by a wonderful park and small lakes. During summer, there is nothing that I love more than to come home by bicycle crossing the park and enjoying music, people walking and the flowers in bloom!
This might be actually the first time my husband went onto one knee: for as un-romantic as this will sound, he never actually proposed to me, and by this I mean the whole “grand gesture” that usually accompanies such an event. My hand got kissed a lot of times, and has seen more than one ring in the years – but he is absolutely way too serious for the whole romantic hoopla. Yet he manages to surprise me by posing for quirky pictures: romantic enough, no? 😀
I was never the one to crave marriage. We lived together for 10 years before putting a ring on it, and you could say that I finally gave in to constant asking of families and friends. Obviously, I was glad, but it wasn’t until about three months before the wedding that I got the “bride bug” and started planning the whole thing. It was an intimate affair of only 21 friends and strict family, as perfect I could ever imagine it, and I admit that on the day itself I felt like a true bride, tears included.
Another thing I could not do without is support. When I started this fashion adventure, I always felt like he did not understand it (not his cup of tea) but he wanted me to be happy and do something that put a smile on my face. So he even gets occasionally behind the camera, accompanies me to events (that is, when my baby bro isn’t available – these two get along just lovely!!) and is a man enough to let me shine without feeling less important for it.
Attention: dangerous curves ahead …
A little anecdote to let you understand what a crazy life we have: 11 days before getting married, we had a motorbike accident that put me in a hospital with a broken shoulder and wrist. To hell went an already bought wedding dress: I had another one custom-made because my surgery and cast did not allow any sleeves. Hey, I married the guy despite my surgeon labelling me as a mad woman! 😀
Let me tell you, it isn’t easy being married to me. I am strong-willed, I know what I want and I go straight for it, I am extremely organized and some would say I like to exert control at all times when it comes to practical issues, and I have more shoes than Imelda Marcos. But I am also a woman who likes to act like one, and no way I am the one with the trousers in the house. Well, I am the one with heels!
Some of you may recognize this setting: it is the place that started this website and truly gave me the feeling that what I was doing was actually something nice. A friend of mine framed the picture and gave it to me as a gift a year ago: it was only right that I should mark the time going by, celebrating love that surrounds me.
Yes, let us remember that Valentine’s celebrates love: friends, family, pets, anything with a heart, I’ll take it! In a year I am richer in this sentiment, because I have amazing friends, some “old” and some new, and they all make a wonderful, loving Lady V’s crew/family.
I was asked what motivated me several days ago on Instagram: my answer was always the same. Love. I cannot breath without it, live without it, exist without it. I give a lot, but I want a lot too.
So my message to all of you ? Please, do not let the day go by without saying the people you cherish that you love them, or that you are thinking of them. L’amour est un oiseau rebelle, but once you gain that bird’s trust – it is yours forever.
DRESS: CHRISTIAN DIOR
SHOES: CHRISTIAN LOUBOUTIN “JOLLY”
GUEST STAR: MR VIOLANTE
LOCATION: ARCO DELLA PACE, MILAN, ITALY
PHOTOGRAPHY BY: SIMONE MARTUCCI